Category: Positivity

I’m a failure, you’re a failure, we’re all failures.

  The letter F constitutes a lot of meaning for a lot of people….



 Yet it  begins some of the most beautiful words; friendship, forever, fabulous…..even FANCY!



….yet we STILL associate it with being a FAILURE. And why is failure such a bad thing? You’re probably responding, “Because you failed ASSHOLE! You didn’t win…you lost! You’re a loser! An L7 weenie! .” While I agree you make a comeplling argument, we can’t all be winners all the time Charlie Sheen….



Sometimes in life you lose…..

porn stars

And sometimes when you lose…you learn….and sometimes when you learn……you grow…..and sometimes when you grow….you become a better person. Hm, funny how that works 🙂 I’m not suggesting we stop striving for success, but what I do suggest is less self pity, heart ache, and feelings of extreme discouragment when we do fail at something. Sometimes we let these feelings of failure overwhelm us and stop us from continuing on to success.

Remember when you learned to walk? Probably not. But I’m sure as shit you fell on your ass multiple times before you were running marathons! Point being, failing=learning. Haven’t you read Dr.Seuss?

oh the places youll go

dr seuss lose

Thanks for the reality check Dr.Seuss. Sometimes you win and sometimes you lose and THAT’S O.K! Stop telling little Johnny if he misses the winning shot he failed you…stop telling Sally if she strikes out she didn’t try hard enough…and stop telling little Joey if he gets caught on the fence he’s never going to amount to anything..


It’s human nature to feel hurt when we don’t succeed.If you are really passionate about something and it does’t pan out the way you thought it would its going to hurt, as it should. That hurt means we care, we are passionate, we most likely worked hard, and that alone is something to be proud of and hold dear.

einstein passion

Thanks Einstein…..


When we fail we are left with another opportunity, which we can tackle head on, and perhaps this time more intelligentlly than before. Lots of successful people failed a bunch of times before creating some of the worlds most useful shit!

Here is the part of the blog where I’m supposed to insert all the pictures and quotes of those who failed a bunch of times and are now millionaires or pro athletes.





While they are a great example of never giving up I’m sure you may feel you can’t relate. “Oh, thats so great that Michael Jordan missed 700 shots in basketball games and still managed to be one of the greatest players in the NBA! WE HAVE SO MUCH IN COMMON!” You may not be going out for the Chicago Bulls, attempting to write a successful children’s book, wanting to make it as a stand up comic, or working on topping the charts Beyonce….but what you must focus on is where your failures are leading to!

Don’t compare yourself to others your whole life! Create your own identity, thats where the best success stems from!


I know failure can crush your confidence. Nothing hurts more than trying your best and it not going as planned. Whats worse? When your confident as all hell going in ….and then your let down.

But instead of throwing a fit…


crying a river….


or calling it quits….

grumppy cat

make yourself get the fuck up and what was that Aaliyah???

brush yourself off

What its really all about is how you react to things. Keep the passion alive and you can suprise the hell out of yourself!


And PLEASE do not let what others think of your “failure” make you feel any lower than you already do.

Keep telling yourself….


And always ask yourself…”Is this the end of the world?” Because it most likely isn’t you drama queen


Well that was a poor example but you get the point!

Do not let failure at something allow you to lose your passion or stop you from achieving your goals no matter what they are…

old guy winning

Don’t fret, just listen to Joe Dirt and everything will be alright…

joe dirt


All it takes is faith and trust, and something we as adults have forgotten…

Lately have you said any of the following…

-“I hate being a grownup.”

-(Gets mail) “Oh let me guess, bills, bills, and MORE bills!

-“I’m not excited about my birthday, I’m just getting OLD.”

-“Responsibility sucks!”

Well Eeyore

eeyore-1       if this sounds like you take a few minutes to read 🙂

If you constantly complain about what it means to be an adult what does your future look like? If you cant stomach paying bills every month or getting older it looks like your future is filled with complaining about the prices of depends, kicking trick or treaters off your porch, and always bitching about the weather..


CHANGE THE WAY YOU THINK! It is all in your head cranky pants, think of all the wonderful things life has to offer as opposed to the few things that get on your nerves. Lets look at life lessons we learned as children that we never saw until now to help shape your outlook on your life.

1.) You can’t run away from your responsibilities. But you can sing Hakuna Matata through them. (It means no worries)


We can learn a valuable lesson from the Lion King. No matter how badly you don’t want to face reality, there is no running away from it. Like Rafiki says, “Oh yes the past can hurt, but the way I see it, you can either run from it, or learn from it.” Everyone makes mistakes, such is life, but its what we do with those mistakes that ultimately matters. You can pull a Simba and run away, move in with strangers, and pretend your problems don’t exist. But in that time you may realize your whole tribe has been enslaved by hiyennas and you could have prevented it, catch my drift? Hakuna Mata my friends, aka worry less about the actual problem and concentrate more on fixing it and you’ll feel a whole lot happier and a lot less like disappearing into an elephant graveyard 🙂

2.) A spoonful of sugar helps the medicine go down!


Remember Mary Poppins? Ok, I’ll refresh your memory, “In every job that must be done there is an element of fun, and POOF, the jobs a game!” You may be thinking, “Well Mary Poppins doesn’t scrub toilets at Taco Bell.”Although this may be true it doesn’t change the fact that your miserable because YOU decide to be. You are in charge of your own happiness not Taco Bell management. Find some fun in what your doing and if you can’t find ANY, it’s time to make a change. If all else fails, take some similar advice from snow white and….

Whistle while you work….

snow white

It may not sound like much fun, but it will annoy enough people to put a smile on your miserable face.

3.) Remember to live in the moment.

winne the pooh

“What day is it?

“It’s today.”, squeaked Piglet.

“My favorite day!”, said Pooh.

Sometimes we get so caught up in the hustle and bustle of life that we forget what a gift each day really is. Take some time of out of your day to really enjoy the small things. Heres a great example, tired of just getting bills in the mail, write someone a letter and you might just get one in return. Imagine how great it will be to open a written letter as opposed to a final notice! Think about it, take a deep breath, and imagine the smile on your face while opening it 🙂

4.) Don’t hold a grudge!

hug o war

Holding a grudge takes a lot of the precious energy you could use to allow for happiness to come in to your life. Let’s take a moment to reflect on Shel Silverstein’s poem, “Hug O War.”

“I will not play at tug o’ war

I’d rather play at hug o’ war

Where everyone hugs

instead of tugs

Where everyone giggles

and roles on the rug

Where everyone kisses

and everyone grins

and everyone cuddles

and everyone wins.”

Ok, so maybe you won’t cuddle or kiss the person you were fighting with but let it go. Just let it go and be free of it! Make love not war, don’t just get wet, dance in the rain, whichever metaphor allows you to let loose the grip on your enemy.

5.) Don’t pretend to be something your not.


Ok, so Aladian got the girl at the end I know. But remember how annoyed Jasmine was when she found  he was pretending to be a prince? Do we also remember how she didn’t care that he was a simple man from the streets? People will love you for who you are, and if they don’t, they are not worth having in your life. Don’t work so hard at being something that your not, it will become a job, and it will blow up in your face. Remember that brief moment when Jafar put Jasmine in an hour glass? All because Aladian didn’t feel like being himself. Trust me, you are awesome as you, don’t change, even if you have three wishes 🙂

Lastly, never forget your imagination, you are never too old for that…

“All you need is faith and trust….and a little bit of pixie dust.”


Have a great day or not, the choice is yours!