Do you set high expectations for yourself?
When you want to lose weight do you pop up out of your dorito crusted love seat and hit Whole Foods? Do you spend $300 on all-natural, gluten-free, reduced fat, sugar-free foods? Then maybe you ordered something with Shaun T on the front of it?
Do you later find those foods behind the Cinnamon Toast Crunch and it’s expired by two years? That’s ok, cereal is for grown-ups to….right?
I know I’ve asked you a lot of questions, many of them specific, but can you maybe relate?
Listen, we all want to lose weight, change the world, save the children, cure diseases, eliminate world hunger, and be the best we can be. But it’s how we go about doing so that is stopping us.
The reason I bring this up is because I always set a goal, getting really excited about it, create all these amazing ways I’m going to accomplish it, and then less than 8 hours later…I’m right where I started….feeling lazy as…
Do not misinterpret this as you are a loser.
This is what a loser looks like………..
Just think of yourself as 95% of the population. We all want to better ourselves, we all have that imaginitive experience that grows hope and inspiration… but what we may lack is the continuous drive…
Don’t worry, I’m not judging you….
I’m just like you and want to change. How can we keep focused on our goals? How can we break the cycle of being so comfortable in our uncomfortable state? How can we stop soaking steadily in a metaphorical hot tub of our own tears?
The first thing we should set out to do is make a REALISTIC goal(s) for ourselves. Don’t set the bar too high, haven’t you learned from past experience? Once you reach your realistic goal, then shoot for the moon! But please take baby steps my friend, or you will continue to set goals you cannot reach and you will continue to feel like a worthless piece of crap…. baby steps my friends….baby steps…
Then, and only then, can we can turn those baby steps into running strides over time…
….It’s great to have dreams, goals, and distinct pictures of what you want your life to look like. Please do not take this the wrong way….the dream is what drives us. Ya know that fired up feeling you get when you get really excited about something? When your envisioning what you want and how happy you will be when you get there?
Keep that! When you feel like your drowning in failure, when you’re making mistakes, when it seem as though nothing is going right on your path…keep envisioning that moment when you reach your goal! Thats a quick way to stop the Debbie Downer in you from gaining control and bringing you back to thinking you will never be able to do it!
I know from experience, if you know what I mean..
But really I do. My journey going back to school was no picnic. I had lots of bumps along the way and it took me longer than normal to get my degree, but I did. What helped me you ask? Envisioning my daughter witness this great accomplishment and our embrace at the end. Whenever I felt like giving up, I pictured her hugging me while I was wearing my cap and gown…
(insert serious moment here)
The point is simple. Make realistic goals and stop the negative thoughts in their tracks by envisioning your proudest moment.
Where does the can of spinach come in to play you ask? Well, this was one of the items I purchased in my attempt to make a drastic change to be the healthiest person on the planet. Just the other day I was searching through my cabinet and noticed that very can, unopened, in the back, looking as pathetic as my attempt to be healthy at the time.
This made me reflect on why my goal remained unsuccessful. I expected myself to do a complete 180 in 24 hours and when I didn’t accomplish that I gave up…
So don’t give up, keep envisioning that moment, and don’t buy a can of spinach, it’s a waste of your time and money 🙂